I’ve been asked this question a couple of times – Who is DH? What is a “DH”? Why do you refer to this entity semi-regularly in your posts? Are you a crazy person?
Well! It all starts with the concept of the soldier’s wife – “AD/DS” or “AD/DW” also known as Active Duty Dependent Spouse or Active Duty/Dependent Wife. And yes, there will always be more army acronyms than you know what to do with, but this post is all about my army acronyms explained.
DH stems from DW. Before we go any further let’s clarify one thing – I am not a dependent wife, and I reject all the baggage that goes along with that term. I am more independent and self-reliant than you could believe and I believe army spouses do so much for their families and communities every day – we keep life going!
And before you ask, no – My husband is not a Dependent Husband either…although I do question his food prep and dish cleaning abilities sometimes.
The term DW stems from an earlier time in military family culture, a time when things were different and women had a “place.” With the changing tide of society, military culture around families and wives (for the most part), DW has gone from meaning “Dependent Wife” to “Dearest Wife.”
This is where I pick-up on the acronym: DH is a short form for Dearest Husband.
If you ask any mil spouse she may have a different definition on any given day: Dick Head, Dependent Husband, Deployed Husband and so on and so forth.
I like Dearest Husband and am sticking with it!
As a military community sometimes we get caught up in keeping aspects of our lives private for OPSEC reasons, but recurring characters like our husbands deserve their own acronym. So although you’ll never know more about DH, please know that he is a person, he is my husband and I love him dearly.
Do you have a short-hand for your SO when speaking about them in a public forum or Facebook group?