This morning I sat down at my computer to write and work through a funk from this past week. I started writing as a way to get some stuff off my chest; about the times that it really sucks to be a military spouse. Half way down my list I realized why I’m still here and still try do it all. Read all the way through to the end of the list, trust me. P.s add yours in the comments.
- When you’re left to shovel the driveway during those ridiculous winter snow storms because DH is conveniently away (wherever he may be)
- When you’re the one picking up all the thawing dog turds in the spring because DH is away on EX, like last year and the year before that.
- When you have to go to family events, holiday events, high school and university reunions, and parties alone because DH is away, or too tired to go after returning from wherever he was.
- When you’re trying to do your taxes early (for once) – before DH leaves again – but you can’t because you’re still waiting on forms from all the places you’ve worked and/or lived in the past fiscal year.
- When he’s gone and you’re working crazy hours and literally nothing gets done around the house because the cat doesn’t know how to dust and the dog sure as f*ck doesn’t do dishes.
- When you’re left to move your household across the country while DH is on course and “un-reachable” by cellphone.
- When you get moved to god knows where and you can’t do a thing about it for the next couple of years.
- When you’re pregnant, give birth and/or raise a child on your own for a while.
- When your friends move away just as you start to rely on them for sister-wife moments while the SOs are away.
- When you don’t have soul sisters at your current posting. The crushing loneliness of a bottle of wine for 1 is too much sometimes.
- When you wake up on a Saturday morning and want to spend the day en couple, and then remember DH isn’t there.
- When you cry at the sound of bagpipes, no matter the circumstances.
- When you have to attend the funeral of a friend and fallen brother…again.
- When you have to face yet another emergency on your own and somehow come out on top, stronger for the journey and bullsh*t. Yea that’s right, you survived the dog’s exploding diarrhea of 2013, the flooded basement of 2014, and the tornado in 2015.
- When you realize that you wouldn’t want any other life if DH wasn’t part of it, no matter how much it sucks sometimes, because no matter what, you’ve got a partner in it with you.
“When he finally gets to call and you can’t hear him because of a bad connection.” – From The Coast Couple
“When people ask you were your spouse is but you have no idea” – From JoMyGosh
“When something major happens in a friend’s life and you don’t live close enough to do anything about it” – Kathy
“Being on IR and living apart for over two years” – Ginne
Live boldly in the face of all the bulls*t ladies, it’ll help you get through it. And remember, ain’t no life like the military spouse life.